Perpetrators, Victims, Survivors
A woman seeks help for her own violence .
At first I would switch off whenever I saw a report about domestic violence. I knew I was about to be subjected to yet another pungent vilification of men and their propensity to beat women.”Hey, what about guys like me?” .
It wasn’t relevant that she has assaulted six men. “I beat the shit out of them.” Hitting a tree head on would have freed my wife and children of the bastard that I was and left no trace of my miserable life.
Using the system to batter
Battering is emotional and psychological, as well as physical. It’s about control, like using the system to impoverish him and keep him from the kids.
Restraining orders as abuse
Women routinely abuse restraining orders, says Cathy Young.
More women arrested
What does it mean? Experts quoted in the media differ sharply.
It’s About People
835,000 men a year
according to latest National Violence Against Women Survey. One every 38 seconds .
It’s Always His Fault
Yale psychiatrist Sally L. Satel. Gender polarization in perpetrator programs reflects feminist ideology.
Hitting below the belt
Easy to get, hellish to deal with, restraining orders have become the ultimate weapon in domestic disputes, says Cathy Young in Salon .
Deadlier Than the Male
So says UK author Melanie Phillips, about violent women.
Blaming the victim
No excuse for violence, unless you’re a woman, perpetrator programs teach.
Evaluator finds police largely unpersuaded by feminist perspective.
Gender Focus on Men Hurts Women
Maybe if TV star Phil Hartman’s wife had received help, she wouldn’t have killed him and herself. But battering women are told they’re the victim.
Radical feminists agree
that women’s experiences are trivialized. Suzanne Steinmetz.
What About the Women?
How Many Domestic Violence Awareness Advocates Discriminate Against Women. Phil Cook, author of Abused Men
The Faulty Duluth Model
What’s Wrong with the Duluth Model?
Blame and shame, not help. Ideology, not science. Ignores drinking, drugs, pathology, violence by women. One cause, one solution. Taught by “wounded healers.” Gender-polarizing-perpetrates the “battle of the sexes”
A Gender-Neutral Duluth Model
For female perpetrators – a different “Duluth Model.”
Insult to Injury
Book: Women’s aggression part of picture; Restorative justice, not blame and shame
Duluth Model Successfully Challenged
Programs gets North Carolina regulation mandating Duluth Model set aside
It’s Such Bullshit
Anger Management for Men is Such Bullshit. It made me suicidal
It’s About Male Oppression of women
preaches the “Duluth Model.”
Cathy Young. Where there’s mutual violence, joint counseling offers the best solution. But it’s not allowed.
Why Women Batter
“He wasn’t sensitive to my needs.” “He wasn’t listening.”
DV as a “hate” crime
Cathy Young. Proposed Federal Hate Crimes Act would add penalties if men abuse. It’s already happened in 17 states.
The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence
Phil Cook, author of Abused Men
Domestic Violence: A Two-Way Street
Familial violence by and against both men and women is a serious problem in a violence-wracked America, but it is a problem for which both men and women share responsibility.
Working with Violent Women
Erin Pizzey, founder of the first modern battered women’s shelter in the world.
No excuse for domestic violence. Period
Cathy Young. The Detroit News series on battered men generated a flurry of mail. Cathy Young wrote a column about the responses.
Prone to Violence
Erin Pizzey’s book on violent women, the one for which she and publisher received death threats.
Press coverage on battered men and violent women.